Is it weird my bf says *HE* bought our house?


My boyfriend and I recently bought a house together. We’ve been together for 10 years. Before anyone asks why we’re not married, we got together as little tweens and now we’re in our early twenties. Our goal is eventually marriage but a house after we established our careers was more important to both of us. Now onto the main topic, my bf always says *I* bought the house, *I* did this, *I* did that. And I haven’t really said much about it because he did put the whole down payment himself so it’s technically true. I think? Though he wouldn’t have gotten the banks approval without me as I make a higher income on paper. He’s a day trader which can’t be considered income to the banks. I think we both sacrificed many years, struggling to make it here. During those years, we never went on any dates or vacations. We barely even talked because trading is extremely high stress. He doesn’t trade often anymore, so we spend a lot of time together now.

Anyways, is it wrong to say that it bothers me when he says he bought the house himself?

edit: I guess I left some important info out. Both our names is on both mortgage AND deed. I pay half the mortgage every month, and I’ve been working full time since 18 to support us.

**you don’t need to read beyond this point, i’m just yapping but there is some additional context down here**

edit2: Some of these comments are so funny and petty 😭 (maybe this post comes off petty too) but most have been extremely helpful though so thank you everyone for their advice. please know i’m reading everyones comments and considering all the advice. Some more context: he says these sort of things not just in private but with me beside him while talking to others. I’m leaning towards having a casual conversation with him. Or just leaving it as he doesn’t have a big ego like most people are thinking, I think it’s more to do with him not thinking about the way he words things. Maybe a little bit of the need to be a man and provide too. It did bother me but I really wanted input and advice from people who may have more experience as I wasn’t sure how to approach it. I don’t have any reliable and experienced adults in my life I can turn to and neither does he as we both grew up with broken families. It’s just us navigating life the best we can. I really appreciate all the input.

edit3: Thought I’d make a final edit before I sleep since this post is still getting a lot of traffic. I want to thank everyone for their input, I am reading every single comment :). I know it’s really simple to say “just communicate”. I am very open to him about pretty much everything but I’ve been convincing myself in my head that I’m overreacting about this so I just wanted advice before I did talk to him (or didn’t in case I blew this out of proportion in my head.. and I definitely did, it’s a simple conversation about my feelings). Like how you’d ask advice from a friend. I just don’t have any friends lol. My life has been 70/30 work life balance so far so maybe I need to relax and make some friends hahah

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